tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post1954124661288424186..comments2023-09-13T04:09:10.968-05:00Comments on Ex Hot Girl: Just call me Pathetic Paula.Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891953417589291501noreply@blogger.comBlogger99125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-73442767891055358782009-10-27T14:37:54.771-05:002009-10-27T14:37:54.771-05:00Geez, I am behind on my blog reading, so I get to ...Geez, I am behind on my blog reading, so I get to be comment #99. Oh well, here goes...<br /><br />I've been a sad panda about this sometimes, but most times, I decided I don't need to care about "not having friends". As long as my needs are being met, there is no point in comparing myself to some standard that probably comes from TV land.<br /><br />Another secret I know is that I MAKE things happen - I don't wait for others to supply me with warm, fuzzy feelings (although it is nice when it happens). If you want to have a situation come true, make it happen! Want a beer? Grab a buddy and go. If no one goes, go anyway and meet people there - they like to do what you do!Benia Zourashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16471714153669700511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-27361942421461490552009-10-10T13:31:37.431-05:002009-10-10T13:31:37.431-05:00I am in a nearly identical situation. I moved to V...I am in a nearly identical situation. I moved to Vancouver, BC in December of 2008 and have not met a single friend. I have my roommate and that's fine, but I have no one that I can call and spend my time with. Everyone is back in Ontario or they are in BC but they are at least 4-5 hours away from me.<br /><br />It is a very, very lonely feeling. I find myself starting to wonder why people aren't asking me to hang out or anything. But sometimes I find that I don't care and I'm pretty good at standing on my own, but sometimes it's nice to have people to spend your time with doing things like watching American Idol or So You Think You Can Dance.<br /><br />*sigh*GirlBoyGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10981826023488349505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-39864696421327639272009-10-08T22:20:50.945-05:002009-10-08T22:20:50.945-05:00That's what I'm facing here in Seattle. I ...That's what I'm facing here in Seattle. I haven't been totally cast down about it yet, but I do miss having girlfriends!!!Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703223063351399847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-83656841491390189272009-10-08T15:30:03.164-05:002009-10-08T15:30:03.164-05:00Ohh ok, "I love you man" great movie. Th...Ohh ok, "I love you man" great movie. The people you take pictures of are not your friends they pay you for a job so they don't think they owe you anything. <br /><br />You have to find something else that doesn't involve you actually doing work. Just hang out, one thing I know if you feel that those around you should be your friend than ask them what the problem is honesty is always the best policy. As long as you feel like you put yourself out there than that's all that counts, plus didn't you learn from " I love you man" You have to be yourself your hot work it babeMY LIFE AS...Ly'Llahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642280949460168955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-14620129538528710182009-10-08T15:06:58.283-05:002009-10-08T15:06:58.283-05:00I moved to god forsaken Alabama five years ago fro...I moved to god forsaken Alabama five years ago from Memphis (no thanks to the b-friend, now hubby). In the city I was always busy, going out and had any number of people I could call to help me fish myself out of the toilet bowl. Here, I have managed to make 2 good friends in FIVE FRICKIN' YEARS, both of whom have been smart enough to get the hell out of here and move on to bigger and better things while I continue to languish away. My husband won't move because his family is here despite the promises he made me before I came here. I am funny, smart and a LEO for pete's sake. Not sure why it is so much harder for adults to make friends in new places. So...I know exactly what you're saying, Jenn, I really do.gkpthepixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13328000128316318817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-45121814643529126242009-10-08T10:26:32.345-05:002009-10-08T10:26:32.345-05:00Wow.... :(Wow.... :(Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816084465620479918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-41365169530053218482009-10-06T13:57:54.678-05:002009-10-06T13:57:54.678-05:00I feel like I just read my own thoughts! I moved t...I feel like I just read my own thoughts! I moved to NC 2 years ago from NY and I have an amazing boyfriend who I love and adore and call my best friend. I have found ONE female friend since I've been here. I have fabulous, wonderful girlfriends in NY, but same thing... they aren't here. My only advice is to make the best effort you can to keep in touch. I try to speak to at least one a day, that way I don't realize how friendless I am here. If you want to move to Raleigh/Durham, we can definitely be friends :)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03990778955716788043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-75625451889791861022009-10-05T22:44:01.629-05:002009-10-05T22:44:01.629-05:00I know exactly how you mean about being lonely. I ...I know exactly how you mean about being lonely. I actually was just recently dumped by my boyfriend of 1 and 1/2 years, so now I'm having to face the fact that I don't really have a lot of friends where I currently am. It's so disheartening, so you're totally not alone! :)Stef Howertonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14361466229507887214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-3478409567177238972009-10-05T12:38:17.885-05:002009-10-05T12:38:17.885-05:00have children. the difficulty factor increases ex...have children. the difficulty factor increases exponentially. and if one (or more) of your kid(s) has a mental illness? you might as well sell your suburban palace and head for that rickety cabin in the mountains.<br /><br />that's my way of saying "dude, i totally feel your pain." i love my husband and all, but i can't bitch about him TO him. and a large part of the problem is ME. not that i'm difficult (although i am), but that between work, pretending to be a wife and mom, and spending an hour a night at the gym--i don't have time to devote to other people, thereby making me a shitty friend to have. maybe i'll have friends at the nursing home when i'm 80...Mitzi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04924366481274530148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-35213771002467567402009-10-05T11:09:29.538-05:002009-10-05T11:09:29.538-05:00I completely understand. Reading your post almost ...I completely understand. Reading your post almost made me cry because you feel exactly the same way I do.<br />I recently moved to DC for a job and left all of my friends, family, and my boyfriend behind in New England. <br /><br />Meeting new friends is SO hard when you're out of school. If you figure out how to-please let me know. <br /><br />Btw. Congrats on all of your success. Both with your weight loss and your blog.Lauren Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13017515137398095188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-62007883932312112812009-10-05T10:40:56.941-05:002009-10-05T10:40:56.941-05:00I feel the same way! I live with my boyfriend, lo...I feel the same way! I live with my boyfriend, love him and have a great relationship and friendship with him. But all my friends & family live an hour or more away from me. <br /><br />I haven't made friends with anyone who lives near me. I've made some friends at Weight Watchers, but that's the only thing we have in common. Everyone else is 20 years older than me and has kids they need to get home to tend to.<br /><br />Like you I talk to my friends almost daily, but sometimes you need that in person connection.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08264768858568940275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-9282194811994263162009-10-05T07:18:12.822-05:002009-10-05T07:18:12.822-05:00Hiya. I've just come across your blog and how ...Hiya. I've just come across your blog and how ironic that I came across this post. I live in Japan, love it and have a few good friends (although no significant other, which is a whole other problem), but I stil get lonely. It's so hard to meet new people, and, in my low moments, I tell myself it would all be so easier if I just went home to my fabulous parents. But, you reminded me that I'm not alone in my loneliness and inspired me to try a bit harder to meet new people. Not sure how I will go about that, but watch this space... Good luck.Sarahfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570295122864601160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-49453458387068811052009-10-05T01:05:40.610-05:002009-10-05T01:05:40.610-05:00I was in the same boat 4 years ago...I just had my...I was in the same boat 4 years ago...I just had my children and husband but no friends..until I joined roller derby...you should try it or get involved..its amazing how many wonderful ppl you meet!Fidela Castratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11767341692433471172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-54535536286214561472009-10-05T01:04:12.608-05:002009-10-05T01:04:12.608-05:00I was in the same boat 4 years ago...I just had my...I was in the same boat 4 years ago...I just had my children and husband but no friends..until I joined roller derby...you should try it or get involved..its amazing how many wonderful ppl you meet!Fidela Castratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11767341692433471172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-37850703405597300052009-10-04T20:45:41.891-05:002009-10-04T20:45:41.891-05:00I completely understand this... and it makes me fe...I completely understand this... and it makes me feel like so much less of a loser!! My (wonderful, adorable, awesome) husband dragged me across the country to the middle of nowhere desert mountain regions of southern Arizona for a job and it took me a LOOOONG time to make a decent friend. But you will make friends!! I wish I lived near you to be your friend bc I think - no, I KNOW - we'd have a ton of fun!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03039007517659275327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-21643434418768708032009-10-04T08:26:03.273-05:002009-10-04T08:26:03.273-05:00I'm there, but mostly by choice. I've been...I'm there, but mostly by choice. I've been hurt so many times by "friends" that I'm afraid of anyone who wants to be in my life. I have a wonderful husband and a great online network, but it's way too easy for me to keep people at arm's length. I do miss having a girlfriend to chat with, though.Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12553321530174610692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-9044160541103833792009-10-04T08:15:28.089-05:002009-10-04T08:15:28.089-05:00I wish i had read this post earlier. I too have th...I wish i had read this post earlier. I too have the same issue and I have been living in Florida for just about 10 yrs. Im from NY and I'm single..all the peeps I know down here are married with 3.2 children...the singles are about 80 years old..I'm totally screwed. I hang out with my family..thats it..it sucks..I miss my friends from up North!! boo hoo..Im whining..but I get it..you really aren't alone!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08194504322939155126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-86006557327077979132009-10-04T06:36:40.938-05:002009-10-04T06:36:40.938-05:00ok first, i think i love you. that aside, its obvi...ok first, i think i love you. that aside, its obvious you have a dynamic personality; totally comes across through your writing. then theres the fact, youre attractive. i imagine youve found some success with photography...so here's the deal:<br />1.personality<br />2.looks<br />3.successful<br />nice package.<br />im going to be blunt. women, for the most part, are catty, inherently jealous, mean, competitive, insecure...ok, im bored listing shit.<br />youve got far too many assets for the average female to consider competing with.<br />rather than lift one another up, we tear each other down to make ourselves look and feel better. <br />basically, we suck.<br />give me a room full of guys and let me work my magic. id rather be with a group of people who think im the bomb, than hang out with a buncha chicks who cant wait for some body to go to the ladies room, so the remaining table hags can rip her to pieces.<br />id be your bff.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05253565477629427260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-18658933409393167752009-10-04T00:00:01.693-05:002009-10-04T00:00:01.693-05:00I can completely relate to this. I just moved to ...I can completely relate to this. I just moved to Alabama from Los Angeles. My boyfriend is originally from here so he has friends and family, and has adjusted quite well. I, on the other hand, spend quite a lot of time feeling lonely. Sure, I have his company, and the company of his family and friends; but I miss having my own friends to have girl talk over an iced latte with. <br /><br />When I watched "I love you, man" I could seriously see myself in his shoes. Randomly befriending people so that I could fill out my wedding party.<br /><br />Sad Panda indeed.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11333577782529464458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-19745705558046876972009-10-03T23:22:05.189-05:002009-10-03T23:22:05.189-05:00Funny...I just blogged about this not too long ago...Funny...I just blogged about this not too long ago...http://konglomeratedkim.blogspot.com/2009/08/thoughts.html<br /><br />It seems the older I get the harder it is to find true, loyal friends. I surely have many people who I call friends but are actually more like acquaintances. I soooo long for a few friends close friends who I can go out and do things with. My boyfriend is on the other side of the states, my daughter left for college and my teenage son, wellll let's just say Mom is the last person he wants to hang around with. Here's wishin you the best of luck finding your BFF in Milwaukee!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08048264290377095085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-6879793994433678902009-10-03T22:55:26.065-05:002009-10-03T22:55:26.065-05:00I'm starting to make a few friends IRL,but it&...I'm starting to make a few friends IRL,but it's slow going, and I need many more. I don't have very many blog friends, either. I'm a bit strange, I'm afraid.juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04335054924351283967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-3236357464811962022009-10-03T22:21:37.206-05:002009-10-03T22:21:37.206-05:00Thanks for writing such a touching post; it makes ...Thanks for writing such a touching post; it makes me grateful that I have friends nearby. <br /><br />I hope that you find, at least, one good friend soon.'Dreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445124443770488433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-2298908928249759332009-10-03T22:21:36.460-05:002009-10-03T22:21:36.460-05:00Ya, I totally don't get why it's so much m...Ya, I totally don't get why it's so much more difficult when we're older to make friends - I guess school just made it so damn easy by having tons of people the same age crammed together for hours at a time...and you saw each other every day so you didn't have to ask for a phone number to keep in touch until you knew each other well enough to not feel weird asking. I always think if I ask for someone's number they think I want to date them or something. Sigh.<br /><br />Anyway, I just wanted to thank you SO DAMN MUCH for listing my blog on your site as one of the blogs that make you pee from laughing. I've always wanted to cause someone loss of bladder control. But seriously, you've sent so many new people to Crazy People I've Worked With, which has given me a renewed spark with the whole blogging thing. It was getting tiring having no one looking ;). I can't thank you enough for that. But I will try:<br /><br />THANKS <br />GRACIAS<br />DOMO ARIGATO<br />DANKE SHON<br />GO RAIBH MAITH AGAT <br />DAKUJEM<br />JAG TACKAR<br /><br />Alright, I think you get the point. I'll stop now before I drive everyone insane.Anita Bierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15420632766211910016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-53764416485440112602009-10-03T21:39:17.517-05:002009-10-03T21:39:17.517-05:00This movie depressed me beacause ever since we saw...This movie depressed me beacause ever since we saw it, my boyfriend has taken to replying "Love, love ... love" whenever I tell him I love him.Emily Stewart Violinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18217263671546558212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4886834023809652263.post-71937458825779256652009-10-03T19:57:12.466-05:002009-10-03T19:57:12.466-05:00hey,is this such a big deal..
i mean this setting ...hey,is this such a big deal..<br />i mean this setting out a fresh in a new place,rather its cool as u can remodel your life again,and smile for the beautiful memories of your last place<br />so don be sad n all ,jus stand a nd start walking,nd u will go placessilversurferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07399577044494525020noreply@blogger.com